Thursday, March 10, 2011

Gym Hamster: Week 6 - Learning to Breathe


I love this little contemplative hamster! Life has been challenging this week. I've made it to the gym... but stress hit an all time high on Tuesday. I had to deal with a family crisis. In the past I'm not sure I would have been bold enough to share about this publicly... but we all need to share our struggles. While details can still be private... it's important to know we aren't the only ones who deal with very hard and very personal family challenges. Alcoholism is a silent disease that is all too often ignored or avoided. It's time to stop avoiding the issues and face the problems that alcohol can cause.

Alcoholism has deep roots in my family. It's the reason I hate the smell of beer or liquor on anyone's breath. It's the reason I get nervous around anybody who's drinking. Alcoholism can tear families apart. It causes unnecessary worry, stress, and health problems. Even (maybe especially) when you're not the one drinking. It's like a cancer that just will not go away... It's especially hard when it effects the people closest to you. It's hard not to blame. It's hard not to be angry. It's hard not to want to shake sense into somebody... even though you know that's not really possible. It's hard to realize sometimes people are absolutely responsible for their own actions and they have to learn how to deal with the consequences. It's hard to realize that sometimes people do not want to change. And as much as you want to help them and as much as you wish things were different... you have to deal with life as it is and always hope for the best.

The crisis hit Tuesday night. We were supposed to head over to a GF support group meeting, but it was disrupted. I spent a good part of that evening on the phone with family members until I knew things were okay for the moment. Often incidences like this can move me into a panic attack. While I'm in the midst of the situation I can be calm, controlled, and directive... but once the wind has blown and settled... the panic can set in. The anger, the frustrations, the sadness, it all can just come to a head...and all those emotions balled up into one can result in some serious emotional eating. That's my alcohol... the food.

But with the help of my husband... I took a different approach that night. I did eat a few chips (it was 9 -I counted! lol) for some crunch action. Then I stopped and thought about what I could do to immediately help myself deal with the situation. My husband made me a cup of hot tea sweetened with honey... and I pulled out the laptop and went online to a wonderful site called "Step Chat" which is an amazing site that provides free, online "AA" and "Al-Anon" meetings. These meetings are held in online chatrooms, but they are run by volunteers in a very, very professional manner and it was exactly what I needed. By God's amazing timing there was a meeting just a few minutes after I logged onto the site. I felt such an immense sense of relief after sharing my story with the support group that I just felt the frustrations and stress simply release away. If you know me well you know I'm a very private person... it's hard for me to share such deeply personal things... but I wanted to share this with you because it was so healing for me. I will continue to attend these online meetings several times a week if I can.

I was proud of myself for not immediately turning to food. I was proud of myself for being willing to deal with the situation right then and there and not ignore it. I was proud of being able to be strong enough to cry and know it was okay. I know that's a huge step for me... and I'm thankful for friends who have been brutally honest with me about getting help with my emotional struggles.

So I've done a lot of breathing this week. A lot of listening to my body. In a way I'm thankful for the crisis that happened this week. Sometimes we don't know how strong we can truly be until we are put to the test and have the patience, strength, and faith to get through it. Breathe.

It's been a great week at the gym. While I don't officially have a weigh in until Saturday I know I'm down at least a pound this week! A WHOLE pound! I was really stalling there for a few weeks so to see that kind of progress is incredibly encouraging and invigorating.

I've also turned to exercise this week not only to get healthy, but to get serious stress relief. Punching it with every step on the treadmill, every turn of the recumbent bike, every knee lift with the ark trainer I dealt with some serious issues on those machines. And I'm thankful. And I still deeply love my family despite the struggles.

I'm breathing.  I'm blessed and I AM STRONG.



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11 comments:

  1. what a great mantra, carrie -- I am breathing, I am blessed, I am strong. I need to repeat that to myself when I'm at the gym at 6 AM tomorrow morning! I'm proud of you and congrats on your successes!

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  2. Oh, Carrie, I'm so sorry your family has to deal with alcoholism. It exists in my family history, too, and what's clear to me is that it affects everyone, not just the alcoholic himself/herself, deeply, for generations.

    I'm glad you feel like you can be open about it on here, and I'm glad your husband helped you find productive ways to soothe yourself while dealing with your family crisis.

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  3. (((HUGS))) You did well this week, Carrie! And it sounds like you have a fantastic support system in place too, your husband knew just what to do. :)

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  4. What a trremendous personal growth demonstration! Be proud of yourself.
    All the best....

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  5. Carrie, so proud that you were able to work through it in such a constructive way. It is easy to fall back into old habits, like food, but to have the courage to do something different...you should be proud of your progress!

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  6. congratulations on learning a new way to be, and having the courage to share your struggles and successes!

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  7. You are blessed and you are strong. Keep breathing!
    N xo

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  8. Hi Carrie,

    My heart really goes out to you. Alcoholism exists in my family as well and I can totally relate to your struggles. Your strength, humility, and honesty are inspiring. Hang in there, you are doing such an amazing job.

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  9. Good for you for facing the fire and coming out stronger. It's hard, I know, it's so hard to change habits but all the work is worth it. I hope you can continue to find comfort in your support group, I may check that link out myself, it is so important to reach out and connect with others who also have similar struggles it helps us know we aren't alone.

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  10. Carrie, thank you for sharing your story. My mother has alcoholism...has been drinking since I was 10 (I am 30 now), started the night my father told me he wasn't coming back home. And then I was left to care for my two-year old brother, endure physical and emotional abuse, and forced to give up my childhood. It has caused many, MANY issues in my adult life, including manifested illness, thyroid auto-immune disease, and not allowing others to come into my life and love me. I applaud you for collecting yourself and handling the situation with such dignity. I also turned to a gym many years for therapy...but I, unfortunately, only replaced my pain with exercise rather than actually healing from it. So I became addicted to working out and dieting and got very, very thin at one point. Now I am back to my normal size and working out, but at home...and I find therapy in helping others and baking. Energy healing, EFT, and other holistic types of healing and medicine have also been a saving grace in my life. I send all my love and light to you...and yes YOU ARE STRONG!!
    Trish xx

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  11. I'm so impressed! And the gym is a great way to work out stress. I hope everything is okay with your family; there is alcoholism in my husband's family, too, and it sometimes stresses us out for various reasons. Prayers to you and yours.

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